These are not my words. I would never dare to claim them. But, I have always dearly loved this poem. It helps to quiet my heart when I think about the questions I know we will have through the years. It helps to support the idea that I am not to replace the biological parents of my children, but that I am to add to their influence in my children’s lives. We are complementary to each other. We are not in competition. It gives more weight to the words that we speak to our children almost daily, “You are so special. God gave you two families!” It helps me to remember to reinforce the idea that my children have a legacy. They are and were loved. They are and were treasured. They are and were wanted. Even though those truths looked different through the years…they are true.
Legacy Of An Adopted Child
“Once there were two women who never knew each other.
One you do not remember, the other you call mother.
Two different lives shaped to make yours one.
One became your guiding star, the other became your sun.
The first gave you life and the second taught you to live it.
The first gave you a need for love and the second was there to give it.
One gave you a nationality, the other gave you a name.
One gave you a seed of talent, the other gave you an aim.
One gave you emotions, the other calmed your fears.
One saw your first sweet smile, the other dried your tears.
One gave you up – it was all that she could do.
The other prayed for a child and God led her straight to you.
And now you ask me through your tears, the age-old question through the years:
Heredity or environment – which are you a product of?
Neither, my darling, neither, just two different kinds of love.”
~ Author Unknown